To wield the power to influence people, you must be willing to go extra miles.
During my childhood days, I had
so many admires and few friends, I wasn’t the regular kind of guy that interact
and associate with many folks. Yet something stood out in my character, I observed
my friends considered my opinion more when it comes to decision making and strategizing.
Though I wasn’t the eldest among
my click of friends back in high school, in fact I had the most innocent face
among them, but I was the brain behind virtually all the decisions we made.
During high school, everyone had
their crew. There were the big girls who skipped classes and hang-out under the
tree to gist and gossip, we had the big boys who broke school rules and hunt
down junior students for fun. There were also the intelligent guys, gentle and
stubborn at the same time.
I happen to belong to the last
We had so much loves from the
females, even our seniors at that time fancied the way we acted up and the
things we did. In my crew, we were 4 guys; I was the youngest, yet the
smartest. Our popularity in school at that time couldn’t be ignored due to our
Hmm how I missed those days…
My influence on friends didn’t stop
at high school days, even in college I made new friends and still maintained my
influence on them.
Kindly note, it is not easy to
make friends who are loyal to you, you need to wield the power of influence and
that is what this article will centre on; “Wielding
the power of influence.”
There are some characteristic and
trait you have to inculcate in you in order to posse the power of influencing
people most especially your friends.
These traits would be discussed
as we move on.
This fact cannot be altered; “some people are born-leaders while some
others are made-leaders.”
People who are born into a monarch
family like the “prince and princesses” are automatically born-leaders irrespectively
of whether they wish for it or not. The inherent genes are passed to them by
their parents, so naturally they have the carriage and charisma to influence
For this set of people, the
purpose of this article might not favour them, because they already posses an
embedded leadership skills and influential tendency.
However, for those who wish to wield the power to influence people’s
decision, these characteristic have to be considered and inculcated in your
approach of life.
HOW CAN I INFLUENCE PEOPLE?
- To influence people, you need to have
something they want
This point is at
the highest hierarchy, reason being that:
attracted to you naturally for different reasons; some could be as a result of
your charisma, looks, character, money, etc. If you wish to have a strong
impact on them and influence their decision, you need to posses something that
attracts them to you.”
observed little babies get comfortable and happy when they play with well-dressed
people but cry when an ugly looking fellow plays with them?
Yes I have seen
The same thing
applies to people, to have that power of influence you need to give them
something in return, “it’s the glaring truth.” You can’t wield the power to
influence people when you have nothing to offer in return. “Life is an
exchange”, “if you need respect, you have to earn it, like money.” You can’t
influence someone who doesn’t respect you.
- Have the ability to give willingly without
expecting something in return
It doesn’t just stop
at having what people want as mentioned above, you also need to have the
ability to give willingly without demanding something in return.
In my future
post I will be writing on “The Power of
Giving”, here I will show you how giving aids living.
The giving hands
is always at the top, while the receiving hands is bellow, whenever you give a
man something, he is automatically indebted and loyal to you. You can choose to
demand that debt anytime. This is why it is always blessed to give than to
people, you have to be a dangerous giver, who gives without expecting anything
- Act like the shepherd not the sheep
The act of
influencing people doesn’t consider age, just like age is not a factor when it
comes to leadership and followership.
I have seen in
many occasions where a family’s business right was handed down to the younger
son instead of the older one to manage by the father.
Now some people
will see this as an error!
father considered the younger son more influential than the elder son.
influential you need to act like the shepherd at all times, knowing that so
many people depend on you to carry them along and solve their problem. They
need to know you’re always available and capable of handling all their problems
when they run to you, regardless of whether they are older than you.
- Don’t underestimate the power of charisma
You need to be a
charming, lively person, people often want to be around someone who brings out the
best in them and make them happy.
people, you need to know how to talk, smile a lot, crack jokes, advice them and
also listen. You can refer to my article on “The Fine Art of Friendship, How to Win Any Friend Over”, this
would guild you more.
- Be calm and in control of every situation
are calm in all situations even when they are in pressure. Just like the lion
is calm when you infringe on his territory, he observes carefully at your
intentions before launching an attack.
To be influential
you have to be in control of every situation you find yourself, most especially
in times where people look of to you.
You need to assured
them you are on top of the situation even though you have no clues on what to
do at that moment. You need to process the situation very fast and come up with
what influential people do.
A weak man cannot posse the power to influence people. A man that chickens-out and is anxious in every situation or gives up every seconds cannot influence even a fly.
People need to see
that you are capable, that when they put their trust in you, they are protected
and covered at all times.
Like a lion you
have to defend your territory and the people who trust and pledge their loyalty
men are not angry men, they are wise enough not to take offence or let little
things get to them.
They show mercy
where fools show pride. They pride themselves knowing what they are made of; a rolling
stone which cannot be stopped by splashes of water.
I am Abel Wealth
These are some of the principles you can use to wield the power to influence people.
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